Working out works best when our fuel is self love, not self hate.
I think that this idea is so important that it bears repeating.
Working out works best when our fuel is self love, not self hate.
It is so very dangerous for us to become our accomplishments. We are not the sum of the things we achieve but of what we habitually do, particularly when no one is watching.
We all lose at some point but being a loser is something entirely different than losing. Losing is inevitable but being a loser is a choice.
Too often we, myself so very included, judge ourselves on our results rather than our character. "Do I have a sixpack yet?" "Did I land that movie role yet?" "Have I reached my goal weight?" We say we are "good enough" when we achieve something and "we suck" when we don't.
The problem with accolade based self love is that when it comes, it is temporary and it can never be sustained.
Too often I have people write me or approach me for coaching and physical training because they hate their bodies and think that changing their shape will make them love themselves. It never does.
We must find a purpose, passion and love that cannot be affected by external factors we don't control.
Do your best. Give your all. But most importantly, love who you are as you work towards whatever goal you have. Mark Sparks
